Divorce is allowed in Christianity?

Divorce's allowed in Christianity?

Nowadays, people tend to think that pnenomenon of divorce is a normal thing that can happen in marriages. Some people think divorce offers solution for marital problem. Marriage is a physical union completed by the sexual act, but implied is a total "oneness" of mind and spirit as well as body. Marriage is not based on sexual drive that moved by lust. Marriage have to be understood as a divine thing. True Marriage is not merely man-made, but is also a Godly union, as Jesus said "What God hath joined together, let no man put asunder." In Matthew Jesus says that he did not come to abrogate the law but to sharpen it, and the prohibition against divorce. 

In early CHRISTIAN theology the purpose of marriage was seen as threefold: to promote fidelity between the partners, to procreate children, and to effect a sacramental union between the couple (Matt. 19:5,Gen. 1:27 and 2:24). The theme of union was developed in 1 Corinthians 6:17 and Ephesians 5:21–33, where marriage—and not HOLY ORDERS—is seen as the type or metaphor of the relation between CHRIST and the church.

The path to divorce is a long and winding one that can begin even in childhood. When children witness their parents’ dysfunctional relationship in their early years, their learning of important relationship skills is limited, and their ability to form committed and trusting relationships is undermined. In one study, adults who were experiencing marital discord in their own marriages reported that their parents also exhibited marital discord. The parental behaviors that were most likely to predict problems in the offspring’s marriage included being jealous, domineering, critical, and moody; getting angry easily; and not talking to the spouse. Conflict with parents in the adult years is another family factor that can destabilize a marital relationship by adding a salient stressor and depriving each spouse of important social support. Growing up in a divorced family also increases a person’s divorce risk. In one two-generational study, parental divorce doubled the odds that offspring would see their own marriages end in divorce— presumably because these individuals held a comparatively weak commitment to the norm of lifelong marriage. Adverse personal experiences may also increase divorce risk. Marital dissolution is more likely for a woman who has been forced to have sex at some time in her life before she was married.Childhood sexual abuse has also been identified as a risk factor for later divorce in women. It is likely that the experience of such a severe violation heightens a woman’s vulnerability to relational insults and increases her vigilance in monitoring and responding to perceived slights.

The purpose of marriage is not happiness, but unity. And in the effort to cultivate this unity can be experienced happiness. Happiness can be experienced together embodied the love of couples through the small things that have great meaning in the family. Failure to build harmonious relationships is not only centered because of love that has been lost in the relationship of husband or wife but is often caused by various problem that sticking out in the domestic life, such as economic problems, gender issues related to patriarchal culture that is still upheld resulted in role imbalance between the role of husband and wife. The condition is exacerbated by physical or mental violence that occurs in marriage.

The issue of divorce is a dilemma because every divorce always brings consequences for everyone who decides to divorce. There are ethical, psychological, financial, and related consequences in society, including in church fellowship. In Indonesia alone divorced people will get a bad reputation because they are considered as traitors of the household and can not hold God's promise so holy. Even the problems with various forms of one form of violence in marriage are regarded as struggles or paths that must be passed and the way of the cross encourages repentance and forgiveness. Thus it can be concluded that the anti-divorce Christian doctrine is an absolute must to remain united in marriage despite the imbalance of justice, the persecution and the grappling of human rights as a person worthy of a beloved, respected, respected, or even infrequently an understanding of the anti-divorce doctrine raises an attitude of justification against persecution and torture experienced by husbands or wives. This attitude is a mandatory part that must be lived as a consequences of a choice, even in spite of the violence within the household we still prefer to persist against the torture. (DD)